The best way to know the self is feeling oneself at the moments of reckoning. The feeling of being alone, just with your senses, may lead you to think more consciously. More and more of such moments may sensitize ‘you towards you’, towards others. We become regular with introspection and retrospection. We get ‘the’ gradual connect to the higher self we may name Spirituality or God or just a Humane Conscious. We tend to get a rhythm again in life. We need to learn the art of being lonely in crowd while being part of the crowd. A multitude of loneliness in mosaic of relations! One needs to feel it severally, with conscience, before making it a way of life. One needs to live several such lonely moments. One needs to live severallyalone.

Monday 29 December 2014


Bhartiya Janata Party's member of parliament from Bhopal Alok Sanjar is a lawyer by profession his profile on the Lok Sabha website says.

But on Sunday the world came to know about his another expertise, hidden so far, that told the world he had deep scientific understanding and knowledge and he was a scientific researcher par-excellence specializing in psychological aspects of human biology including sexology.

The 51-year old law graduate who is a first time MP revealed his finding (or the eureka moment for the humankind) after a painstaking work that is sure to echo around the world - among the members of the scientific community as well as among the societies of the world populations including governments, opinion leaders and social scientists.

Mr. Sanjar, while addressing an event in Bhopal on Sunday (December 28, 2014, the red-letter day), revealed to the world his 'epoch-defining' finding on human sexual behaviour and its effect on human lifespan.

So far, the Gyaanis (the subject matter experts) have maintained that sex is better than jogging or can efficiently replace your gym engagement and can help you keep fit with a brilliant mental health or is the best form of physical work that includes pleasure as well. Discussions on health benefits of sex include themes like 'if sex is the best form of exercise'.

But, then Gyaanis of stature like Mr. Sanjar are iconoclasts in their endeavours, giving the world something new that redefines the existing concepts.

And being true to his reputation, his finding indeed was groundbreaking, shattering the age-old notions on benefits of sex (mentioned above). Mr. Sanjar told the world on Sunday, in definitive terms, that sex affected human lifespan negatively and 'frequent' sex could 'drastically' reduce one's lifespan.

Now, coming from a personality like Mr. Sanjar, who is also one of the members of the committee of Indian parliamentarians on 'health and family welfare', the earth-shattering finding has created a huge buzz and is being discussed the world over, including one of the alter-ego aspects that Mr. Sanjar probably left knowingly for some other day as he was still working on it. It is foolhardy even to think that Mr. Sanjar would have left it out of the ambit of his work. 

The finding has grave consequences as it challenges one of the most taken for granted aspects of human relations and, as expected, has already become the talking point. 

While the societies are debating the finding with heated discussions, scientists are approaching Mr. Sanjar to get enlightened on his finding further, to learn about its scientific nuances and its psychological implications. Anthropologists and social scientists are also interacting with Mr. Sanjar to know more as the finding has the potential to change the human behaviour on one of the natural and basic requirements of human physiological and psychological make-up, of human existence. As per the latest reports, governments, including his own, are also reaching out. 

While the desire to further the understanding on Mr. Sanjar's finding is supreme, all of them also want to know the 'missing' aspect - that what should be the 'frequency' of sex - that could be in the safe range - or the 'safe frequency of sex'.

We wish Mr. Sanjar is already working on it because this 'missing' piece is the only hope after his authoritative finding that says human lives are under threat from an activity that has been internalized and is fundamental and universal to the human civilizations since the days of Adam and Eve (or when the first man and woman walked here) is expected to bring chaos in human relations and thus in societies. 

We hope we will soon have some synchronized scale of 'safe frequency' by Mr. Sanjar that would be applicable to societies and 'makes' of humans.

©/IPR: Santosh Chaubey -