The best way to know the self is feeling oneself at the moments of reckoning. The feeling of being alone, just with your senses, may lead you to think more consciously. More and more of such moments may sensitize ‘you towards you’, towards others. We become regular with introspection and retrospection. We get ‘the’ gradual connect to the higher self we may name Spirituality or God or just a Humane Conscious. We tend to get a rhythm again in life. We need to learn the art of being lonely in crowd while being part of the crowd. A multitude of loneliness in mosaic of relations! One needs to feel it severally, with conscience, before making it a way of life. One needs to live several such lonely moments. One needs to live severallyalone.

Sunday, 25 May 2014

HAVE YOU BEEN A FRIEND IN NEED?

A friend needs you the most when, somehow, he is not able to share his problem with you, whatever his reason(s) are.

And the reasons don’t exist when the problems start killing the words.

When a person is not able to express something painful he is going through, his agony and suffering cannot be understood by others including his family members and his best friends.

Also, it happens frequently that the conditions and the relations in the family don’t permit a person to even look in some problem while being with the family. Reasons vary and all we know and have been through them.

A friend is the natural outlet in such situations.


Even if the person cannot speak about his situation, he comes to stay with, to let some of the agonizing moments pass, in company of his friend(s).

Yes, not all friendships qualify this benchmark.

His silence should speak to you then. Do you read your best friend’s silence?

But if you claim to be a friend, you must understand the state of mind of your friend.

Knowing the reason should never be a point here. Knowing or trying to know how you can reach out to him in his lost state of mind, sharing and lessening his pain, should be your natural act.

He needs you there. He expects you to understand something he cannot explain.

Have you been a friend in need?

Have you been a friend who is there, not requiring any superlative? 

©/IPR: Santosh Chaubey - http://severallyalone.blogspot.com/