The best way to know the self is feeling oneself at the moments of reckoning. The feeling of being alone, just with your senses, may lead you to think more consciously. More and more of such moments may sensitize ‘you towards you’, towards others. We become regular with introspection and retrospection. We get ‘the’ gradual connect to the higher self we may name Spirituality or God or just a Humane Conscious. We tend to get a rhythm again in life. We need to learn the art of being lonely in crowd while being part of the crowd. A multitude of loneliness in mosaic of relations! One needs to feel it severally, with conscience, before making it a way of life. One needs to live several such lonely moments. One needs to live severallyalone.

Wednesday, 8 January 2014

ABANDONED, THEY WAITED TILL LAST, BUT THEIR CHILDREN DIDN’T COME

LIFE - COLORES INFINITUM (57)


They were there, surviving somehow.

This would certainly not be the life they would have thought of, ever, when they were raising their children, giving them all, thinking of them only, from teaching them how to speak and walk to guiding them on how to take on life, consuming, exhausting their life energy to make future of their children better, to settle them comfortably, to make them independent (and, in turn, to make them dependent on their children).

And they were there, surviving, somehow, in their 70s, having given all to their children, keeping the bare minimum for them (and in most cases, not even that).

In the emotionally cold and tangibly insolent surroundings of the old-age home, they were waiting, if any of their children would come to look for them.

Their natural right had become a sort of miracle for them that had so far eluded them. They knew any hope was hopeless. Yet, some of them kept their hopes alive.

It was story of every couple or every man or woman, the defined inhabitants, living there. Yes, but the two of them, who passed away on a single day, were incriminating reminder of the growing animal in us, the humans.


Yes, the children, they were raised by these two ladies and their husbands to become the civilized members of the society they were living in. But they did not know they would be excluded from that very society by their own children, forced to live in a fake environment of socializing, to die in isolation, in an old-age home, a paid one, where even a normal help would come after making repeated requests.

Both the ladies were in their 70s. One was ill and was in sub-conscious state for seven days before she breathed her last. The people their said she had around eight children and other relatives in the city and she waited for seven days for them. Though informed, none of them, not even any of the children, turned up to see her, to take her back for further, advanced treatment.

The other lady was living her routine day there when she fell in the bathroom and couldn’t survive the fall. She, too, had her children but no one was there to take care of her, to rush to her when she fell. Probably, the apathy from her children and the subsequent depression had taken its toll.  

Both of these ladies had families, had children, who were duty-bound to take care of them.

Yet, they died alone. In fact, they died this way because of their children only.

Depending on how ‘animal’ or how ‘human’ one is, the shock value can be absolute. For me, it was just a regular, like any other day trip there, when I came to know this and I felt inert for a long time after it.

And it deeply, psychologically negatively affected everyone else living there – the ‘defined’ inhabitants of that old-age home. It was not just the problem of the two ladies only, in varying degrees, almost of them were facing it – the pain of ‘rejection’ by their own sons and daughters.

Shouldn’t such children be tried for murder (even culpable homicide trial would be an unpardonable injustice)?

©/IPR: Santosh Chaubey - http://severallyalone.blogspot.com/