The best way to know the self is feeling oneself at the moments of reckoning. The feeling of being alone, just with your senses, may lead you to think more consciously. More and more of such moments may sensitize ‘you towards you’, towards others. We become regular with introspection and retrospection. We get ‘the’ gradual connect to the higher self we may name Spirituality or God or just a Humane Conscious. We tend to get a rhythm again in life. We need to learn the art of being lonely in crowd while being part of the crowd. A multitude of loneliness in mosaic of relations! One needs to feel it severally, with conscience, before making it a way of life. One needs to live several such lonely moments. One needs to live severallyalone.

Sunday, 26 May 2013


Self-realization comes to us in different stages of life.

The life-events leading ‘us’ to realize about us and ‘about us in life’ are randomly stacked up. They may or may not lead us to generalize about what we come to realize (something that is open to be changed later) but there cannot be a random selection about such events because we never know if it is the moment unless it comes into happening or unless it is passé; because we never knew if we were to come across a particular moment at a particular time having some self-realization lessons.

There is no hierarchy of such moments. There cannot be one.

Life is sum-total of the moments lived and every moment has its own vitality of individualized proportions when you live with ‘you’ only’, when you communicate with ‘you’ only. The self-realization moments form an important measurement of such individualized moments.

And there is no defined pattern of ‘how and when’ of such moments. When we don’t know the next moment of life, how can we define the moment next-to-the-next? Yet, we plan. That is about being human. But the reality remains – life moves in random, unplanned ways, from this moment to the next one. And that applies to the ‘self-realization’ moments as well.

Such moments may come to us in odd moments. Such moments may come to us in routine moments. Such self-realization moments may come to us in ignored moments.

Such moments may knock at the conscious in our merrier moments.

Such moments may stare at us in the moments of crisis and in the pal of gloom.

Such moments may pinch us even if in a state of thoughtlessness.

Self-realization can call us at any hour. Yes, there are heightened individualized moments when we tend to cut off; when we move deep inward; when we feel betrayed, by us or by others; when we find us in some difficult situation and the way-out looks nowhere in sight, when the life gives us the clear pointers on our thought-process to ‘introspect and retrospect’ to make sense of ‘all that is happening’, to make sense of ‘us’ in all that is happening. It is up to us whether we listen to the call.

In our youth, we look at such self-realization moments differently, many times not even realizing about them.

As we grow up and start making sense of ‘who we are’ and ‘what life is’, our perspective to the ‘moments of self-realization’ takes a different approach. This is the most fruitful and so the most volatile phase of life when we experiment the most with our identity and so about our ‘realization of life’ and ‘us in that life’.

When we are more or less settled-down, we tend to be less experimental and there come moments when we conveniently choose to ignore the writing on the wall in order to sail along with the flow of life.

When we approach the final days, the days to say the final goodbye, the time to witness the final farewell, we do come across the self-realization moments that sum up the whole life telling us what we collected, what we did, what we had to do and what we could not do. We feel most positively about such moments in this phase of life because we look at them in the light of the acquired wisdom of the countless moments (defining and redefining our existences) sifted and assorted mercilessly by time. 

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