The best way to know the self is feeling oneself at the moments of reckoning. The feeling of being alone, just with your senses, may lead you to think more consciously. More and more of such moments may sensitize ‘you towards you’, towards others. We become regular with introspection and retrospection. We get ‘the’ gradual connect to the higher self we may name Spirituality or God or just a Humane Conscious. We tend to get a rhythm again in life. We need to learn the art of being lonely in crowd while being part of the crowd. A multitude of loneliness in mosaic of relations! One needs to feel it severally, with conscience, before making it a way of life. One needs to live several such lonely moments. One needs to live severallyalone.

Friday, 3 May 2013



Though, there were moments when he felt lonely, but he finds, he was never alone. He finds, he never had to look for his individuality. It was there with him, always.

He loves to take responsibility. He loves to be committed to the people not just in his circle of life. Yes, he is very clear about his circle of life, but it only leads him to be responsible for every other human being he comes across. And yes, he feels his individuality is his best companion.

Attachments – some of them become perpetually connected, some of them have a regular presence in your life, and some come as experiential journeys – they all shape one’s individuality.

It is not in philosophy. It is not in written literature. It is in you.

What literature says about individualism and individuality is material, no second thoughts to it. Yes, but the notions and the observations are, certainly, not absolute.

They have come, again, from different individuals and their perspectives on life they experienced in existence in context of their own existentialism.

The written literature and so the prevalent notions about individualism and individuality are juxtapositions of individual viewpoints that find connecting vibes in every generation but they cannot be generalized. They can, at best, be supportive to your conscious about what you are; about what ‘individual’ you want to be.

Also, not everyone goes about reading what has been written about what needs to be done. Like always, again, it has individualized notions for the people who can think about it consciously.

And not everyone thinks about or thinks about it consciously.

Existing here has to be meaningful and the sense of ‘being meaningful’ comes from individual ethos. Many may discard this notion of ‘meaningfulness’. Many may not even realize about it.

Being individualist does not mean exclusivity of existence. Exclusivity can only be maintained at the level of thoughts. Existence needs a harmonious ‘you’ in harmony with your ‘circle of life’ where you share your persona and thoughts. Here, you affect others, and in turn, get affected by others. These experiential journeys don’t riddle but enhance your individuality.

Existentialism and social amalgamation, both are, and need to complement each other.

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