The best way to know the self is feeling oneself at the moments of reckoning. The feeling of being alone, just with your senses, may lead you to think more consciously. More and more of such moments may sensitize ‘you towards you’, towards others. We become regular with introspection and retrospection. We get ‘the’ gradual connect to the higher self we may name Spirituality or God or just a Humane Conscious. We tend to get a rhythm again in life. We need to learn the art of being lonely in crowd while being part of the crowd. A multitude of loneliness in mosaic of relations! One needs to feel it severally, with conscience, before making it a way of life. One needs to live several such lonely moments. One needs to live severallyalone.

Tuesday, 27 November 2012


A lonely journey, a standalone moment, a simple incident, can sometime tell you what you were always looking to know.

Life is just not about existing. It goes beyond the existentialism. It calls for building on your own credentials. It calls for fighting and fighting to win.

It calls for creating your own set of rules where you don’t lose questions and where you don’t act impulsively for answers.

Answers, sometimes, they are never there; sometimes, they cannot be.

Answers, sometimes, they take time to get into your stream, to make it to your psyche.

Answers, sometimes, they are there only, but you cannot see.

In lonely moments, when you are just with your ‘self’, sometimes, you come to realise how cruel you were to torture your soul for the answers that didn’t need any questioning at the very outset.

Or, they can tell you it was better to reconcile and co-exist with a question.

Life throws problems to test your mettle and to tell you the intent of the presence of people in your sphere of life.

When you make a life socially, you are many ‘persons’, interacting with the ‘people’ who form your social circle that includes your family, too.

The answers that you seek, originate from your own existence as well as from the existence of these very ‘people’ in your sphere of life.

You might not get all the answers but you must seek the root of the questioning that originates the propositions.

You must strive for answers that your own ‘self’ creates, for they make the principal ingredients of your identity.

You must always be judicious while seeking answers that the other ‘people’ (except your family members) in your sphere of life create for you because many are not going to hold any relevance except dragging you down.

You come to realise the value of relevance of such questions in the lonely moments when you can question your ‘self’ seeking the absence of the answers and a simple moment of afterthought tells you the root of the questioning itself is already uprooted.

In the standalone moments of self-reckoning you come to know the questions were to be seen as the passing moments on your existential scale and you needed to be free of impulses to be in line with the intent of the answers. 

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