The best way to know the self is feeling oneself at the moments of reckoning. The feeling of being alone, just with your senses, may lead you to think more consciously. More and more of such moments may sensitize ‘you towards you’, towards others. We become regular with introspection and retrospection. We get ‘the’ gradual connect to the higher self we may name Spirituality or God or just a Humane Conscious. We tend to get a rhythm again in life. We need to learn the art of being lonely in crowd while being part of the crowd. A multitude of loneliness in mosaic of relations! One needs to feel it severally, with conscience, before making it a way of life. One needs to live several such lonely moments. One needs to live severallyalone.

Saturday, 27 October 2012



A man goes out on the beach and sees that it is covered with starfish that have washed up in the tide. A little boy is walking along, picking them up and throwing them back into the water. ‘What are you doing, son?’ the man asks. ‘You see how many starfish there are? You’ll never make a difference.’

The boy paused thoughtfully, and picked up another starfish and threw it into the ocean. ‘It sure made a difference to that one,’ he said.

This is a Hawaiian parable that I have taken here from Half The Sky: How To Change The World, (Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl Wudunn), a thought provoking work on women slavery and stories of those who stood up to set examples.

The parable with its simple yet stunningly powerful words tells us what most of us lack in the life – lack of attention, a deficient attachment and the lack of understanding – in living the joy of the ‘small’ to make the thing that you see as ‘the’ big goal in your life, that again may be very mundane for other.

But remember, it is your life and it has to be basically about you.  

I am not going to write about the book here that quotes many stories that dumbfound us before showing the possibility to crack the code to a solution. Read it and form your own opinion.

Life is in smaller moments; smaller moments that has the potential to make the person of ‘you’. You don’t launch on the final stretch of the journey directly and life is certainly not a sprint race.

It is basically not about making grand plans and researching and restructuring your life to make sense of it.

It is always before your, within you, waiting to be looked at, longing to be taken care of.

It is basically about how you perceive your presence here; how you perceive the every moment that passes.

It is basically about whether you follow the escapist in you or the fighter in you.

It is basically about the cliché that goes saying whether you see the glass half-filled or half-empty.

It is basically about whether you follow your voice or buy more of others.

It is basically about whether you express your thoughts genuinely, be it joy or anger or sorrow or pain or humiliation, and not paint them up or down under any pressure or compromise.

It is basically about whether you see the other person, who so every he may be, as equal to you.

It is basically about whether you treat the others the way you expect them to treat you.

It is basically about doing your bit honestly for the life given to you and making it a natural part of your existence, like the boy in this parable reacted to the question of the man.

It is basically about giving respect to the life in its entirety for giving you the chance to make your living felt by the others.

It is basically about realizing this feeling and living your life in a straight forward way not compromising with your ideals that you set for yourself.

Living a life on your terms is experiencing the life in the smaller moments that give us the moments of self-satisfaction and echoing memories of self-reflection.

The sum total of the experiences that you live in the smaller moments make the larger picture of your life making you ready for the next. 

©/IPR: Santosh Chaubey -