Anything but the truth is no one can draw even an element of satisfaction in a death, be it of a close relative, or of someone not related at all. But, at the same time, these are some elements of satisfaction only that lead us to manage our day-to-day lives out of the greatest mental agonies that life keeps on throwing us in. And so, the discussion was a pertinent one. Yet, we fall miserably short of getting full picture of this sort of satisfaction to come to terms with such a mishappening like someone's death. The 14-year old-back-into-the-future boy, 15 years later, still finds him into this quagmire time and again.
"I lost my young son two years ago. The pain is still unbearable. But, somehow, I have managed to go on with life and his memories play an important role in it, for, he had some dreams, dreams of a young blood. If the tragedy has done anything, then, it has made me younger by some years so that I can try to relive the dream of my young son. He had this much of life after that he left. But he left me something that, I, now understand, is the element of satisfaction for me to build on, that is, his dreams. Though unbearable, I see him passing on to a higher realm." Someone from among the audience said.
"I had never had cordial relation with my wife. When she was alive, I never realized who was at fault. But we never thought of separating. Now that she is no more, I find I was on the wrong footing since the very beginning. It makes me yearn for her even more. I have no element of satisfaction. It kills me an inch more on every passing day. How can I not think of being guilty when I know I am?" Another voice from among the audience!
On here, comes the voice of the orator with the foreign accent quoting again a Gita text:
nasato vidyate bhavo
nabhavo vidyate satah
ubhayor api drsto 'ntas
tv anayos tattva-darshibhih
"Those who are seers of the truth have concluded that of the nonexistent [the material body] there is no endurance and of the eternal [the soul] there is no change. This they have concluded by studying the nature of both."
The orator goes on saying, "Both of you are on the path of truth now. Both of you are seeking more truth, truth being a relative term here. One has found the element of satisfaction in his biggest mental agony; another has found the element of dissatisfaction. One is living the days that he had lived with his son; another is living the days that he could not live with his wife. One has a positive element to move on; another has a negative element to move on; something in both the lives, that is pushing them to find themselves; something that is pushing them to find the one and only absolute truth. Now it is to be seen whether you continue on the path to the extent where this debate of 'a life lived' and 'a life gone' stops making sense, for, the soul is absolute; the soul is purity embodied; the soul is to remain with you, to guide you, even when the body is gone; even when the flesh is annihilated, for, it had to be, sooner or later. What remains is the element of association that comes to haunt you, that goes on hunting you. But, as the time passes, one comes to realize the presence of soul more and more in metaphysical terms, a presence far beyond the sensory modalities. It, then, starts cultivating at the level of subconscious, something that always remains with you, whether you realize it or not. For a soul, nothing changes, for, it is beyond the realms of creation and destruction; for, a soul has to be in a transient state. The only permanent attachment for a soul in a lifetime is with the memories of the time when it was with you. And it honours it, for, it remains with you. Yes, it depends much on the circumstances, circumstances that you are in; circumstances that you create."
Therefore, he adds:
avyakto 'yam acintyo 'yam
avikaryo 'yam ucyate
tasmad evam viditvainam
"It is said that the soul is invisible, inconceivable and immutable. Knowing this, you should not grieve for the body."
There is no life, no death for a soul. There is just life, no death for memories. There is life; there is death for the body.
But isn't the question of relevance of debates on life and death still there? For, the soul remains with us; it may or may not be with us.